I have a confession to make. I have an addiction. I love watching movie trailers. Apple putting a link to the newest movie trailers on their homepage has been a huge detriment to my efficiency. There is a new movie coming out called No Strings Attached with Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher. In the trailer, she says she doesn’t believe people are created to be monogamous. I would disagree. Even the man who says I can’t be loyal to one woman, I have to get around, that same man has been loyal to the same losing football team for his whole life. I think the issue is not with his loyalty but with his lust. If he doesn’t deal with the second, it will always interfere with the first. Even a loner, who says he can’t get along with people, he doesn’t even like them, he is loyal to the bands he loves. Even the couple of bands he doesn’t want you to know about because they’re not considered cool anymore. We naturally attach to things and to people all the time. I think God created us to be in community, close-knit and loyal community.
Thoughts?
Todd
I think the way that our society views relationships is a very big problem and this movie is just proof of it. I believe that God created human beings to be moral support for each other. Companions. Husbands, wives, friends. Not just sex partners. I think that the people who say they are loners arent loners. They just dont know how to create and maintain relationships. They want them. They crave them. They just dont know how to do it and are putting on a front that they dont need them. I feel sorry for those people. I think those are the people that as Christians we need to reach out to, even if we get rejected time and again. Eventually God will allow us to break through the barrier and reach through to them.
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I believe in loyalty. I say if you can’t be loyal, don’t commit. Trust and honesty are important to me. I think there are just so many people out there who just don’t care. They put themselves first. Many have lost faith. My faith in God keeps me strong.
Todd, I’d agree with you to a certain extent, only noting that there’s a big, big difference between having a monogamous relationship with a woman vs being loyal to a favorite footbal team, band, or whatever. The key factor in the equation is God – who created both man and woman, as well as the football team, band, etc., but He never said be loyal to the latter(s). I’ve been married for 20 years and would never ever consider having an affair outside of my marriage. I’m committed to living my life according to God’s Word and one of the things He tells us as husbands is to love our wives as Christ loved the church (He died for it), to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless, (Eph 5:25-27). My job – help my wife be the woman God would have her be in order that one day she can be presented to the Lord holy and blameless. I think too many people today are more concerned with personal gratification then they are with what gifts and talents they have been provided and that they’re instructed to use them for His glory – by giving of themselves and leading others to Him. I feel sorry for those people too, however I also believe that God will use me where He chooses to use me and if someone in the process gets led to Him, well hallelujah. But, sometimes I know and feel like I’m just a seed planter and others will be the ones to reap the harvest (John 4:37)
Is it wrong of me to immediately think of a Jars of Clay song?
“In the shelter of each other
we will live, we will live”
It just reflects what you say. . . we are meant to be here for one another, to lift each other up. To be our brother’s keeper, if you will…
I think that you are right about God creating us to be in community, I don’t think that He wanted us to be alone or else He wouldn’t have created Eve for Adam when he wanted a mate. But I believe that people don’t commit to relationships because there is that lust factor going on, and maybe because they are afraid, or ignorant, of a real relationship. To really get to know a person means that you would have to come to know their strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and still love them and to continually forgive them. It can be an emotional rollercoaster ride to truly love someone completely. Even with the loners who are sometimes in the news for they have gone on a murder spree, it’s usually because all they wanted was to be loved by someone. Since you love movie trailers, check out the movie called “Unleashed”. This movie is about a child who was denied love for most of his life and how he ended up. Of course it is fiction, but it is a heck of a movie. Bottom line is, people need each other and love is a basic need for all living things.
I think you’re bang on, brother.
i cannot agree more to you…lust has destroyed many legitimate and loving relationship…it is this selfish desire within every man that has caused many sorrows and heartaches to the ones we really love. And loyalty not only to our partners in life, but also to God’s word has kept man from rack and ruin.